It is my understanding that the quality of one’s social integration is defined by the ability to integrate both verbal and non – verbal communication skills. More than once I have asked a child “how can you tell who is strong and who is weak in your class; who looks nice and who looks scary?” Most of the time children ‘know’, but can’t explain how they know. Most of the time, such questions puts them in touch with their own place in their social life. Most of the time this ’place’ isn’t a very good one. So they do know, somehow, who they need to look out for, and who is more comfortable to be around. My job is to help them understand the HOW and help them see how much choice they do have in their social life, in relation to the contact they make with others, or others make with them.